Urbs in Hypno:

A City of Hypnosis

Beguiled Consent and Unacceptable Behaviors

Purpose: To assure the safety of Beguiled attendees by providing expectations and procedures for enforcing con rules, code of conduct, presenter rules, and volunteer rules as well as handling consent, harassment, and other issues which happen at or impact Beguiled.

The Concom reserves the right to alter or modify these procedures as necessary to allow for a fair, efficient process and investigation and to ensure the safety and wellbeing of all parties involved.

Consent

Beguiled values informed, affirmative consent as the gold standard for consensual activity. Every participant in a scene should state their informed, affirmative consent to the activities planned for the scene after negotiation has concluded and before the scene begins. Consent is defined as an affirmative freely entered agreement between parties for an action or activity that is bound by time and space. It can be revoked at any time and is required for all interpersonal activities and interactions except:

  • Verbal social greetings and general conversation. Any conversation utilizing NLP, covert or conversational hypnosis or other trancelike language requires explicit consent.
  • Incidental touching such as in a crowded elevator, when passing in a hallway, or taking one's seat in a classroom.
  • Discussions and lectures during classes or other official convention events. If someone objects to the words or actions of the instructor or participant, they may leave at any time. Instructors should not call attention to or make fun of people who leave. If someone believes the instructor or participant has exceeded the reasonable bounds of the topic without consent or has failed to demonstrate proper consent, a complaint may be made as described in the Consent Policy and Procedures.
  • Emergency situations when it is not feasible to obtain consent. This is especially true of individuals acting in their professional capacity such as doctors or EMTs during a medical emergency.

For example, do not:

  • Touch another person, even in non-sexual ways.
  • Touch or handle another person’s property, be it human property or toys/equipment/clothing.
  • Insert yourself into or interrupt a scene in progress.
  • Involve another person in your scene or non-scene activity without their expressed affirmative consent.

Attendee Responsibilities

  1. As an attendee at Beguiled, it is your responsibility to ensure that you have obtained freely given, informed, affirmative consent for all interactions other than the exceptions described above including but not limited to: touching (including hugging and handshakes), play, hypnosis/trancing, including NLP, covert hypnosis, conversational hypnosis and other trance states, BDSM, or anything that is considered kink or sexual activities.
  2. Consent can take many forms and can be retracted at anytime. It is your responsibility to discuss all aspects of a scene with your play partner(s) and confirm that everyone involved understands the rights, responsibilities, limits, and safe words/signals (including non-verbal signals) that will be used in the scene.
  3. No’s can also take many forms. A soft no (i.e. trying to exit conversation, physically moving/leaning away, subject changes) is still a no and should be treated as such. For everyone’s comfort and safety, a good rule is when in doubt assume that consent has not been given. Treat “maybe” as a no.
  4. If you have approached a person to play, and the person has denied consent, that should be the end of the conversation. Continuing to ask may result in an affirmative response that is coerced, and thus does not meet the definition of consent and may also be considered harassment.
  5. Consent for one activity or in one situation does not grant consent for other activities or situations. It is your responsibility to obtain consent for each and every activity in which you are involved. However, pre-existing and standing consent between partners is recognized as consent.
  6. What is not consent? Consent that is unclear or given under duress, manipulation, or consent that has been retracted does meet the standard for consent. Only an overt “yes” meets the standard for consent.
  7. Some scenes, by their nature or the nature of existing relationships between participants, adopt an alternate consent model as implicit/blanket consent or consensual non- consent (CNC). This policy fully supports the use of alternate consent as long as every participant in the scene has freely agreed to adopt that consent model.
    1. In designated play areas, if you plan to use an alternate consent model that may appear to onlookers to be non- consensual or dubiously consensual, all parties must inform the dungeon monitors and provide them with any safe words/signals which will be used. This will aid them in responding appropriately to any reports from bystanders and avoiding having to interrupt your scene. The convention safe word is Red.
    2. Outside of the Dungeon or other monitored play spaces, please be aware of onlookers’ reactions to alternate consent and make a point of avoiding misunderstandings.

Privacy

  1. Beguiled respects and protects the privacy of our attendees as best we can by only requesting necessary information, using password protection, and limiting access to registration and other attendee names, emails, or identifying information.
  2. Your personal information is not shared with the entire ConCom, but only those members of the ConCom whose duties require it. This may include the Con Chair(s) and hotel liaison, and to a certain extent the volunteer and presentation coordinator(s).
  3. In the event of an emergency, the ConCom will provide needed information to the necessary parties.
  4. If there is an issue regarding privacy please contact a member of ConCom or use the online reporting form.

Unacceptable Behavior

Unacceptable behaviors include but are not limited to non-consensual touching, harassment, retaliation, discrimination etc.

  1. Beguiled is dedicated to providing a harassment-free convention experience for everyone regardless of gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, age, or religion. We do not tolerate harassment of convention participants in any form. Convention participants violating these rules may be sanctioned or expelled from the convention without a refund at the discretion of the convention organizers.
    1. Harassment includes, but is not limited to:
      1. Unwanted and/or offensive verbal comments related to gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, age, or religion.
      2. Deliberate intimidation, stalking, or following.
      3. Persistent unwelcome hovering around someone, sometimes known as puppy-dogging.
      4. Photography or recording without permission.
      5. Sustained disruption of talks or other events.
      6. Inappropriate physical contact or violation of personal boundaries.
      7. Any unwelcome attention, sexual or otherwise, after it has been made clear that the attention is unwelcome (or it would be clear to a reasonable person).
      8. Advocating or encouraging, any of the above behavior.
    2. Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately.
    3. If a participant engages in harassing behavior the convention organizers may take any action, they deem appropriate, including warning the offender or expulsion from the conference with no refund. If you are being harassed, notice that someone else is being harassed, or have any other concerns, please contact a member of convention staff immediately.
    4. Convention staff will be happy to help participants contact venue security or local law enforcement, provide escorts, or otherwise assist those experiencing harassment to feel safe for the duration of the convention. We value your attendance.
  2. Retaliation is defined as harming or attempting to harm another person because the other person has or is believed to have taken action against you. Harm does not have to be physical. Types of retaliation can include but are not limited to:
    1. Outing or Doxxing (Gathering and sharing another person’s information without or against their consent).
    2. Blackmail and Extortion - using information to force/coerce another into doing something.
    3. Making bad faith reports.
    4. Trying to weaponize the ConCom or the rules as a way to harass another person.
    5. Attempting to have someone banned or removed from an event or online community resource such as FetLife groups or online forums.
  3. Discrimination is inappropriate or offensive behavior based on characteristics such as race, religion, political beliefs, gender identity, and sexual orientation.
    1. Do not assume a person's gender. Respect people’s identities. When in doubt, politely ask or default to gender neutral language
      1. Repeated misgendering after being corrected is unacceptable
    2. Racist, sexist, -phobic statements and slurs are not tolerated.
    3. Do not make offensive statements about politics or religion.
      1. If you wish to discuss politics or religion do so in a respectful manner or discuss it privately outside of con space.
      2. This does not supersede point 3B, above.