Purpose: To assure the safety of Beguiled
attendees by providing expectations and
procedures for enforcing con rules, code of
conduct, presenter rules, and volunteer rules
as well as handling consent, harassment, and
other issues which happen at or impact
The Concom reserves the right to alter or
modify these procedures as necessary to allow
for a fair, efficient process and investigation
and to ensure the safety and wellbeing of all
Beguiled values informed, affirmative consent
as the gold standard for consensual activity.
Every participant in a scene should state their
informed, affirmative consent to the activities
planned for the scene after negotiation has
concluded and before the scene begins. Consent
is defined as an affirmative freely entered
agreement between parties for an action or
activity that is bound by time and space. It
can be revoked at any time and is required for
all interpersonal activities and interactions
Verbal social greetings and general
conversation. Any conversation utilizing
NLP, covert or conversational hypnosis or
other trancelike language requires explicit
Incidental touching such as in a crowded
elevator, when passing in a hallway, or
taking one's seat in a classroom.
Discussions and lectures during classes or
other official convention events. If
someone objects to the words or actions of
the instructor or participant, they may
leave at any time. Instructors should not
call attention to or make fun of people who
leave. If someone believes the instructor
or participant has exceeded the reasonable
bounds of the topic without consent or has
failed to demonstrate proper consent, a
complaint may be made as described in the
Consent Policy and Procedures.
Emergency situations when it is not
feasible to obtain consent. This is
especially true of individuals acting in
their professional capacity such as doctors
or EMTs during a medical emergency.
For example, do not:
Touch another person, even in non-sexual
Touch or handle another person’s property,
be it human property or
Insert yourself into or interrupt a scene
Involve another person in your scene or
non-scene activity without their expressed
As an attendee at Beguiled, it is your
responsibility to ensure that you have
obtained freely given, informed,
affirmative consent for all interactions
other than the exceptions described above
including but not limited to: touching
(including hugging and handshakes), play,
hypnosis/trancing, including NLP, covert
hypnosis, conversational hypnosis and other
trance states, BDSM, or anything that is
considered kink or sexual activities.
Consent can take many forms and can be
retracted at anytime. It is your
responsibility to discuss all aspects of a
scene with your play partner(s) and confirm
that everyone involved understands the
rights, responsibilities, limits, and safe
words/signals (including non-verbal
signals) that will be used in the scene.
No’s can also take many forms. A soft no
(i.e. trying to exit conversation,
physically moving/leaning away, subject
changes) is still a no and should be
treated as such. For everyone’s comfort and
safety, a good rule is when in doubt assume
that consent has not been given. Treat
“maybe” as a no.
If you have approached a person to play,
and the person has denied consent, that
should be the end of the conversation.
Continuing to ask may result in an
affirmative response that is coerced, and
thus does not meet the definition of
consent and may also be considered
Consent for one activity or in one
situation does not grant consent for other
activities or situations. It is your
responsibility to obtain consent for each
and every activity in which you are
involved. However, pre-existing and
standing consent between partners is
recognized as consent.
What is not consent? Consent that is
unclear or given under duress,
manipulation, or consent that has been
retracted does meet the standard for
consent. Only an overt “yes” meets the
standard for consent.
Some scenes, by their nature or the nature
of existing relationships between
participants, adopt an alternate consent
model as implicit/blanket consent or
consensual non- consent (CNC). This policy
fully supports the use of alternate consent
as long as every participant in the scene
has freely agreed to adopt that consent
In designated play areas, if you plan
to use an alternate consent model that
may appear to onlookers to be non-
consensual or dubiously consensual, all
parties must inform the dungeon
monitors and provide them with any safe
words/signals which will be used. This
will aid them in responding
appropriately to any reports from
bystanders and avoiding having to
interrupt your scene. The convention
safe word is Red.
Outside of the Dungeon or other
monitored play spaces, please be aware
of onlookers’ reactions to alternate
consent and make a point of avoiding
Beguiled respects and protects the privacy
of our attendees as best we can by only
requesting necessary information, using
password protection, and limiting access to
registration and other attendee names,
emails, or identifying information.
Your personal information is not shared
with the entire ConCom, but only those
members of the ConCom whose duties require
it. This may include the Con Chair(s) and
hotel liaison, and to a certain extent the
volunteer and presentation coordinator(s).
In the event of an emergency, the ConCom
will provide needed information to the
If there is an issue regarding privacy
please contact a member of ConCom or use
the online reporting form.
Unacceptable behaviors include but are not
limited to non-consensual touching, harassment,
retaliation, discrimination etc.
Beguiled is dedicated to providing a
harassment-free convention experience for
everyone regardless of gender identity and
expression, sexual orientation, disability,
physical appearance, body size, race, age,
or religion. We do not tolerate harassment
of convention participants in any form.
Convention participants violating these
rules may be sanctioned or expelled from
the convention without a refund at the
discretion of the convention organizers.
Harassment includes, but is not limited to:
Unwanted and/or offensive verbal
comments related to gender identity
and expression, sexual orientation,
disability, physical appearance,
body size, race, age, or religion.
Deliberate intimidation, stalking,
Persistent unwelcome hovering
around someone, sometimes known as
Photography or recording without
Sustained disruption of talks or
Inappropriate physical contact or
violation of personal boundaries.
Any unwelcome attention, sexual or
otherwise, after it has been made
clear that the attention is
unwelcome (or it would be clear to
a reasonable person).
Advocating or encouraging, any of
the above behavior.
Participants asked to stop any
harassing behavior are expected to
If a participant engages in harassing
behavior the convention organizers may
take any action, they deem appropriate,
including warning the offender or
expulsion from the conference with no
refund. If you are being harassed,
notice that someone else is being
harassed, or have any other concerns,
please contact a member of convention
Convention staff will be happy to help
participants contact venue security or
local law enforcement, provide escorts,
or otherwise assist those experiencing
harassment to feel safe for the
duration of the convention. We value
Retaliation is defined as harming or
attempting to harm another person because
the other person has or is believed to have
taken action against you. Harm does not
have to be physical. Types of retaliation
can include but are not limited to:
Outing or Doxxing (Gathering and
sharing another person’s information
without or against their consent).
Blackmail and Extortion - using
information to force/coerce another
into doing something.
Making bad faith reports.
Trying to weaponize the ConCom or the
rules as a way to harass another
Attempting to have someone banned or
removed from an event or online
community resource such as FetLife
groups or online forums.
Discrimination is inappropriate or
offensive behavior based on characteristics
such as race, religion, political beliefs,
gender identity, and sexual orientation.
Do not assume a person's gender.
Respect people’s identities. When in
doubt, politely ask or default to
gender neutral language
Repeated misgendering after being
corrected is unacceptable
Racist, sexist, -phobic statements and
slurs are not tolerated.
Do not make offensive statements about
politics or religion.
If you wish to discuss politics or
religion do so in a respectful
manner or discuss it privately
outside of con space.
This does not supersede point 3B,